Devi Pavarti (devi_pavarti) wrote in thegirlproject,
Devi Pavarti


**first of all I don't think I need to say this to you but this is a disclaimer, I mean no offence, if you believe in something I don't, I have nothing but respect for you, if you have baptized your child either because of religious or cultural reasons, that's your decision for your family and I have no opinion on that. You do whatever you need to do, this is how I feel and what I need to do.

I'm getting so sick of people asking me about Baptizing. We did not Baptize Fionna and will not Baptize the new baby. First of all what would we Baptize her as? Don is firmly Agnostic and I'm Unitarian, we don't Baptize. Most people will let it go when I tell them that we don't Baptize in Unitarianism and that if Fionna/Baby choose to be Baptized when they are older and find their own relationship with God that dictates they need to be baptized I will be happy for them. But I'm not making that decision for them.

But a few people continue on, my Grandmother still comments on how sweet Fionna would look in the family Christening Gown (which honestly is yellow and old and gross and wasn't even nice enough to consider an heirloom when it was new, it's just old). My Step-Mother has asked if we want to have them baptized just to "hedge our bets" - I for one don't think that fools God, but apparently it's enough to just go through the actions. And so on.

So here, here's the real reason I won't do it. It's offensive.

This is what I was taught, I know some churches vary on their beliefs interpretations, but my upbringing in a Presbyterian Church taught that Baptism was the cleansing of the new soul of Original Sin and that a Child was not recognized by God until it had been Baptized:

1250 Born with a fallen human nature and tainted by original sin, children also have need of the new birth in Baptism to be freed from the power of darkness and brought into the realm of the freedom of the children of God, to which all men are called.[50]

Sacrament of Baptism
Baptism is the sacrament that frees man from original sin and from personal guilt, that makes him a member of Christ and His Church. It is thus the door to a new and supernatural life...

...Baptism effects the remission of original sin and actual sins and of all punishment due to sin; it confers sanctifying grace, membership in Christ and in the Church and the obligation to obey the Church's laws, and give an indelible character.

OK, so what is Original Sin? I was taught it was the Sin of Eve picking the Apple and feeding it to Adam which caused the expulsion from Eden.

"Fallen man's natural sinfulness, the hereditary depravity and corruption of human nature because of Adam's fall." 1 That is, Adam and Eve's transgression when they ate of the forbidden fruit opened a gulf between God and humanity. Pollution from that sin has been inherited by all of Adam and Eve's descendents to the present day.
A list of definitions are here:

OK, so if that was the sin, what was their punishment? The punishment was the expulsion from Eden, right, we all know that, but Eve's punishment was greater, her punishment was to have to bear and nurse children and that her daughters for all generations would have to bear this punishment as well:

"Because you have sinned and tempted Adam to sin, you will suffer pain any time you give birth to a child," God told Eve. "So also shall it be with all human mothers in the future" (Gen. 3:16).

Another interpretation/translation of the text: To the woman he said, 'I will greatly multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children, yet your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.'

So what is it we're Baptizing for?

To be cleansed and forgiven of the sin of curiosity and independence. To not once again have the face of God turned away from us because we did not bow to his desire to keep us ignorant and dependant on him. As a mother and as a woman I find that offensive.

So what is it we're Baptizing for?

To ask forgiveness for the act which was the cause of the most beautiful and natural thing a woman can do. I do not need forgiveness for the Sin Eve committed. I thank her for bringing the joy of motherhood to me. As a daughter of Eve I reject the notion that I need to ask forgiveness for my curiosity and independence. I reject that my husband shall rule over me and know that the strength inherent in us as women and mothers is what causes fear in the men who need to rule. My husband is a good man, he rules over me no more then I rule over him, and I have the strength and courage to be his equal thanks to Eve's Sin. I refuse to in any way teach my daughter shame or indoctrinate in her a sense of "her place". As a mother I welcome the pain of childbirth and wish it upon my daughters with a smile and knowing understanding that in that pain a woman will be born, a woman who is strong and needs no rules or limitations to guide her. She will know how from the lessons passed to her from Eve.

So ask me again why I'm not Baptizing my daughter.
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